Memorialization | What is Memorialization |
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Memorialization is the process of remembering a loved one through formal or informal ceremony. Sometimes it can be just a short moment of silence on special occasions--such as a birthday or an anniversary. Other times, it can include special remembrance items, such as jewelry, trees, books, collections, etc. Each family needs to determine what may be helpful and important in remembering the special person who has left a void. Memorialization also means personalization. Just as each one of us is different, at the time of death that difference should be remembered and celebrated. Each family has the opportunity to create a ceremony that acknowledges how important the loved one was in their lives and to the community. In the past, funeral services were often dictated by religious ritual and distinct traditions--viewings, wakes, church services, burials, etc. These traditions in ceremony served as a way for us to acknowledge death, the passing of life, in a prescribed fashion. Today, families are able to choose between traditional services, creating a completely personalized service--or combining the best of both. In particular, many friends and family members are taking part in the formal services, offering poems, readings, and music. Displaying pictures and mementos that were special to the deceased can be very comforting. Personalizing items of remembrance such as memorial folders with favorite passages, hymns, or writings has become important. Creating a special moment during the formal service--such as releasing balloons, spreading wildflower seeds, or lighting candles, can be comforting. Sharing memories is always appreciated. Most funeral homes and clergy are very willing to help families explore their options. The more that grieving families and friends participate in the memorialization process, the closer they will be to starting the road to living again. The death of a loved one is not something to sit back and watch as it happens around us. It is a life event, much like a birth or marriage. To fully participate is to bring meaning to the loss. |